David Home, a Scottish philosopher, born May 7th 1711, and died August 25th 1776 at the age of 65, put forth this question:
Suppose a child is born with no senses.. no touch, sight, sound, taste, smell. This child has no way of obtaining any information from senses. Further suppose this child is kept alive until age 18. Does this child have a thought in its head?
The question goes back to the same concepts in the movie “The Matrix” where reality was not what it seemed. That which we believe is real, we know through our senses. But aside from our senses, how can we know what is really real?
German philosopher Immanuel Kant, born April 22 1724 and died February 12th 1804 at age 79 agreed that all knowledge begins with experience but stated that it doesn’t follow that all knowledge arises out of experience.
These two approaches lead to very different concepts of what it is that we sense outside of ourselves. Some philosophers might argue that we do live in the Matrix. Not one created by evil robots but in one that we have created ourselves, a condition brought on by the necessity of our ability to comprehend reality.
Different schools of philosophy interpret fundamental questions about reality in significantly different ways. “Tat Tvam Asi” is a Sanskrit phrase which translates to English as “Thou art that”. This again relates that which we perceive and how that is interpreted to tell us what we are.
Greater minds than mine or yours have long asked the basic questions.. Why are we here? What is our purpose? What is real? This is a really shallow dive into the deep thinking that most of us don’t even begin to touch upon. What I am saying in too many words is, we all need to maintain a certain degree of humble, about what we think we know.
A woman walked by me with a T-Shirt with a picture of a UFO and it said.. “I want to believe”.
My thought: If you want to believe.. do so. What could make you give up what you want to believe? But I also think people can and will believe nearly anything. What you think you know, isn’t always going to be accepted – because – what some think is crazy is normal for others and visa-versa. Don’t be too quick to tread on what others believe.
For example, you can not prove there is no big foot. That bastard, if he does exist, is the ultimate champion of the game “hide and seek” .. no doubt about it. But seriously, to PROVE a thing does not exist is not possible. You would have to be everywhere, at the same time and simultaneously and instantaneously declare, he is not here, to prove he is no where at that moment in time. Can’t be done.
You can produce many very logical arguments against the existence of many things, but you often can not empirically prove these things do not exist. Many human constructs are like this, existing only in our minds. Good, Bad, Hate, Love, … even the law of gravity that we except without question, exists no where in the world. You can’t hold them, you can’t show a person what it is, you can not describe these what look like, or how they taste, or sound..
Many of these things never existed until someone created a word for them. In a very real sense, these things did not exist before someone thought them up. They were created in a mind, and they exist in a mind. There are things all around us that can not meet the basic criteria that we might lay out for existence.. to see it to touch it.. to smell it.. but you believe these exist because you have experienced them.
What you would call “good” or “bad” is often simply the objectification or your own feelings about that thing. ~Xquote
To be a person of wisdom, you must start by excepting that the things we have learned are based on experiences and your experiences are uniquely your own… leading to your unique feelings, which in turn leads to your unique understanding about the value of things around you.
It logically follows that what you have come to understand and believe may be uniquely your own as well – though – and this is important: Never underestimate the attraction of wanting to be part of a group..
The desire to forgo your own critical thinking in order to become part of a group that accepts you, once you accept the group way of thinking, has destroyed many a person’s desire to pursue their own thoughts.
People that are very excited over great causes, have an over-inflated sense of their own grasp on the situation. That or they have been blinded by the necessity of maintaining a group way of thinking.
I sat across from a person who went from talking about wishing an ex-boss dead, to how bad some other people were, and then what was wrong with some other people, and then interjected.. that’s why I try to be a good person. With all that negativity towards other people, I don’t see how she could really be a good person. The word “try” hung heavily in my judgement of this person.
In the Screw Tape letters.. (another must read book) there was a woman who was very pious. She asked for nothing. All she wanted was a properly toasted piece of bread and some weak tea. But no one could do this properly. No one could satisfy her desire to just have these simple things and so it was perfectly alright for her to be a vicious bitch to the people around her because these people couldn’t do that one little thing right. It was OK, because she asked so little of life.
I suspect the woman who “wanted” to be a good person, was probably just like that. She wanted to be a good person but these bastards around her wouldn’t let her, which made it perfectly alright for her to be a bitch herself. She could be quite smug about how perfectly nice she was, while all the while being anything but nice.
When you step back, and do some really, really deep thinking, you start to realize how really insignificant our grasp is on the totality of the human experience. More importantly, we often mistake how others might perceive us or how accurately we perceive others because of the constructs of reality in our minds. Obviously, as you can see from my observations, I pass this “reality judgement” on all persons, but especially on those into BDSM.
Perspective is absolutely critical to wisdom.
So.. where is the BDSM angle? Glad you asked. We know very well that our reality is not what many others see. We know that a loving sadistic dominant can look like an abuser. We should leverage our understanding of radically different perspectives and take it to the next level.
To be a superior Master or slave, you want to think beyond the kink, the pleasure, and the joy that you experience. You want to do some deeper thinking about who and what we are, and we should do this on some very basic levels. On the levels that philosophers start.
We should take this knowledge, and make things happen on personal levels. Not with “them” or “against them” but with “someone”, or “without someone”. Do this with no apology or regret, or influence from others. Few frames of mind lead to more trouble than thinking in terms of “us and them”. Keep it personal, and in the immediate present, the here and now of direct interaction.
If a woman wishes to submit to the will of a man, she should. If a man wishes to submit to the will of a woman, he should. And if you wish to mix those genders around you should. You should seek happiness at it most basic level. In service to each other, and it it works, in service to others.
Forget the big things or big accomplishments. These are paths of ego, for the confused and mislead. It is not in the plans for tomorrow or the regrets of yesterday, but here, today, right now that your path to a deeper appreciation for life happens. Its OK to take another path than others, to think another way.. just do it with love in your heart for all those who can’t see the time and thought you have put into your choices.
For the love of all that is sacred, do not fall into the trap of group thinking. But neither should you disdain those who do. It is not a crime, nor do you have to be careless, to find yourself lost. It happens to the best of us.
Having taken a deeper dive, you should not feel superior. That too is a trap. Nor should you feel sorry for those who do not follow, that is yet another trap. Rather, you should love and appreciate them, flaws and all, blind though they may be.
Do not judge your own success by the number who follow you less you create a group yourself. It is enough to share your reality with one other person, perhaps two or three. But at some point you are forming a group and at this point your ego has overtaken your wisdom.
It is their loss, not yours if you can not coax someone out of the shallow end of the pool, into a deeper richer appreciation for a greater range of perspective, on what is real. If you can, do not be surprised if their view is entirely different. That is the nature or our individual perceptions of reality. It is an illusion that we share this world. Our individual worlds may overlap, but we rarely share a world.
When we can share our own personal world with another, it is a strange and terrifying thing. Deep in its richness and revealed perspective. Because BDSM tears at the boundaries between two people, between Master and slave, it opens a strange new world that only those who dare to travel this road have seen. We have much to offer, but is easily rejected for the reality it destroys and replaces.
Be happy for yourself if you achieved a broader view that can see and appreciate the diversity of perspectives around us and still love and respect others.. that should be enough. The only true crime against humanity, is the destruction of free thought.
Carpe Diem my friends.. Go read a book!