– – Alpha Inde X –

- I have wondered what it might be like to be less physically capable, and still be a Dominant.  I’ve wondered what kind of woman would bind herself to an elderly man that she would have to care for.  I am going to answer that question with two videos.   If you have not seen this […]
“How to be gay”, or a Master - So, where the hell did the title for this blog come from?  Let me peel back the skull cap for a  twisting, turning look at all the thoughts that lead up to this blog and its wildly inappropriate title. This is going to be a long one, so take a back seat and prepare to […]
“My Master” and other things bigger than ourselves - My slave is not allowed to utter the words, “My Master”.  I own her.  She does not own me.  Ah…. but how infinitely desirable is it to a slave to be able to speak these words?  How completely bland and tasteless, how abjectly lacking in emotional content is the replacement.. “the Master I serve”?  I […]
“This slave” - I got a text, it read: “This slave needs a nap” Because I tend to reflect on every aspect of my Master/slave relation, this short sentence is fodder for a blog. At first, the nilla side of me noticed the third person speech, and flinched at the raw objectification.  But she IS an object, albeit […]
0Oooooo! Shiny! - Never dangle shiny things in front of a squirrel, and never dangle a squirrel in front of a dog..~ And you can quote me!   Hmmmm but maybe together they might be OK? right?  Formula probably calls for an excess of alcohol though, just saying. I had to do it.  A little bit of playing around […]
A BDSM central authority (and sleep) - One question that came up the other night was.. If you had the magical power to change one thing about BDSM,  in general, what would that change be? That conversation wandered about, and one person jokingly said that persons that were assholes would glow in the dark so we could keep better eye on them.  […]
A Cane, and its pain, can heal - Somewhere between a diary.. and a workshop, lies this blog.. Saturday night was fire play, and afterward a person whose opinion I value said:  I don’t want this to sound like an insult, so how can I say this.. Your play tonight seemed less sadistic. Now if you read my accounting and are not into […]
A collar and fire - So, the time has come to write of this weekend.  What can I say?  I walked in knowing I am a Master, I walked out a feeling like the Master I knew myself to be.  It was a glorious evening in every way.  It was a night for Raven and the Fairy Queen… but as […]
A friend and a partner - I don’t have a lot of time to go into this today.  A friend and a partner has passed away.  A much beloved horse, who was dear to Izrina died in the early am yesterday. I could go into the spiritual side, that all living things are connect on another level, that every blade of […]
A movie, and laughter - This weekend I took my property to a movie.  We saw the new “Independence Day” movie.  It was good.  Lots of wonderful Sci-Fi scenes and action and an unexpected amount of comic relief that I quite enjoyed.  Sitting together in the dark, Jeff Goldblum or some other character would drop something unexpected into the drama […]
A new beginning - I’ve started blogs before.  MySpace, FaceBook, Blogger, GooglePlus.  They gain popularity, then fade or your words get lost in the clutter, sniping, and struggle to create and hold an audience.  These mediums all seems so transient, feeding a need for constant stimulation.  It’s the same old stuff, regurgitated over and over, always in new ways.  […]
a new workshop, old problem - The thoughts are just churning away.. yeah. can’t sleep.  So a word on some of what I am thinking about… First, next Month I give away Raven in her collaring ceremony.  Big moment.  About three years ago, she worn another collar and the Master who owned it refused to remove it.  Now, fast forward and […]
A picnic, a grandmother, & bite marks - A picnic – So as mentioned, I took my 80 something mother to our love of leather picnic today.  Also my 18 year old daughter. Three generations, with me the lone male in the middle.  Its an interesting scenario, and interesting it was.  It was entirely too fucking hot though..  The Fword is inappropriate, yes, […]
A slave has THREE choices - This is old and replace by this >  DRAFT TWO.  Why not delete this one then?  I think it helps see that this concept when through an evolution, that I didn’t just arrive at this and declare it.  That through conversation, feedback, and thought, I arrived at the thoughts in draft two.  I believe in […]
A slave has THREE choices – draft two - Note, this is cross published from my Dominant support group in Fetlife which can be seen here.  (You will need a Fetlife account to view) Also, the FINAL DRAFT can be found here: A slave has three responsibilities A slave has three areas of choice When I first proposed that a slave has three choices, […]
a slave in the wind - Easter weekend.  I am off to wild country in the Virginia’s for some luxury living and horseback riding.  Before we ride the four footed ponies, I’ll put the top down on the convertible and we’ll enjoy some sun.. . Hmmmm a warm sun, and Izrina by my side… the interstate wind whipping through her hair […]
A slave in Walmart - First off, this is not one of those kinky blogs.  This is about me being a Master, and my slave being a slave, but it is also about being a life couch, and being a positive influence in the life of another. We needed stuff.  We had a plan and Walmart was the easy stop.  […]
A strong will - Jian Ghomeshi won his appeal.  His lawyer, a woman, is now being threatened with losing speaking engagements.  Her presence is a little too strong.. After reading a few news articles, I wrote this: If you advocate change, you do it by changing laws, and you start preparing to change laws by listening to your opponents. […]
A woman and her cat - A woman and her cat – There once was a woman who had a cat and when she came home at night she and the cat were very cozy and happy together.  Then the cat had kittens and she couldn’t part with them all and kept a few.  Each kitten became a cat and each […]
Absolutes are a bitch - Its true that… Too much of a good thing is never enough!   Its OK to be greedy for more as long as you don’t allow it to become an unbearable pain. But the unbearable pain of too much love is just fine. So is unbearable pain OK or not? Why is one unbearable pain […]
All this sin,and I sleep - Around 18 hours ago I got up to do a few things before heading to Vegas.  All tasks, travel, flights, and check-ins are behind me at last.  Here I sit in my hotel in Sin city and all I want to do is collapse.  Its 1:30 am here but my brain still thinks its 4:30 […]
An early Thanksgiving - Thanksgiving.  Its a time of good food, and good company.  Of course in other countries, its on different dates and known by other names, like the Harvest Festival.   For me, growing up in the US, it comes at the end of November, and on a Thursday morning, the kitchen begins to fill with wonderful smells: […]
An interesting choice - I was faced with an interesting choice today.   I had a rare break in my day and I could afford a lunch, which means I could have left the office, taken a stroll, had a bite to eat, and de-stressed. I had plenty of managerial work to do, but my employees are way behind and […]
Anger - If you didn’t read my previous post, please do first.  Its here. Now.  Some might think I  wasn’t strong because I didn’t blow up, that I didn’t show that asshole the Master and Dominant that I am.  Others may think that if you are not angry at injustice, then the injustice may not be real.  […]
Appreciation - On a perfect morning, I awake to the smell of fresh brewed coffee beside me, and my slave performing oral service.  Noticing that am awake she mews: What is Masters pleasure this morning?  Perhaps I let her finish, or perhaps my immediate need is to have her snuggled under my arm.  At some point, content […]
As gentle as … Strength - Nothing is so strong as gentleness and nothing is as gentle as real strength – Penelope Cruz – a character in the TV show Criminal Minds A story of pacifists.  We were watching a science fiction show tonight and in it, humans visited a world inhabited by very simple, very peaceful pacifists with the power […]
Assholes of BDSM - Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. Sure, a lot of people like anal but nobody wants to deal with a really big asshole.  Seems there are a lot of us running around the BDSM community.  Yeah, I said us.   I’m one too.  I really try to be all consensual and sensitive and what […]
Beauty ( and hope ) - I am going to try to keep this one uncharacteristically short..  here goes.. I have a critical eye and I’m honest. If you really want to know if something makes you look fatter, or thinner or looks good, I’ll tell you honestly what I think.  Normally, I think I am fairly good as judging how […]
Bedroom rituals - I lie in bed, my arms folded behind my head, I wait with the confident assurance of the God of the bedroom I know myself to be.  She approaches the bed and kneels beside it, head bows and repeats the words made familiar by years of repeating the ritual.  I wait for the question.  She […]
Behavioral training – is it consensual? - Tonight, I wanted to write about training Dominants.  My slave changed my mind. So this is partly about training Dominants to be better at behavioral training, but also, its about how that training is or isn’t consensual. Some things you can’t teach people.  I have seen very mousy people announce that they want to be […]
Black, white, shades of grey - This is NOT about the book.  Its about tonight’s munch, and an epiphany.  It was a nice day.  I had lunch with my biological family, then supper with my kinky family. At the munch I had the opportunity to sit with three folk. One was very new and had questions.  I pulled out my soapbox, […]
Bonus blog! – Removing free will, part 2 - This is a bonus Blog!  Just a little something to throw out there because it crossed my mind.  If you are waiting on “Two Rituals, part 2”, don’t worry, its coming shortly.  Much like a dog distracted by a squirrel, or a slave by something shiny, I had to give this a moment’s attention.  Welcome […]
Broken promises, cock fighting - I know I promised the next blog to be a glowing report of the joys of this past weekend.  I must disappoint.  Next blog perhaps.  Things happen. It was a grueling day.  Ten straight hours.  Breakfast by my slave was grand, as was the worship at return, but days end, I needed the everyday rituals […]
Call out to me in Ecstasy… - Posted first by emdimensional, this speaks to me Wherever you may lead, Labyrinth.. And you call out in ecstasy I remember you’re my best friend I have wandered through the labyrinth I have found you at the edge of time And you call out in innocence To the wild unbroken wind I have fought to […]
Checking my ego - If you follow this blog, you know that this evening was one I was really looking forward to.  I  had a rosy picture in my head of how wonderful it was going to be, when I was with my own kind.  Here’s the thing – – that doesn’t always work out the way the you […]
Cognitive behavioral therapy - CBT teaches that a person’s core beliefs can be broken in three primary categories: Yourself, Others, and the future. Our thoughts on self, others, and the future; along with our core beliefs on these things, influences our feelings and by extension our behaviors. If we inject new core beliefs, and moderate our thoughts, we can […]
Collaring from the heart, An”X” workshop - So, I promised an update on how the workshop went.  If you didn’t catch that in an earlier blog, Friday night I gave my workshop “Collaring from the heart”, at “Feel Me Breathe”. Feel Me Breathe, is part dungeon, part playground, part leather family center, part workshop area, and well, basically an extension of everything […]
Collaring tonight - This blog contains links to Fetlife.  You will need an account to view these links. Last night was the Love Of Leather munch.  Many of the leaders of that group are leaving and no one is stepping up to fill the roles that will become free.  I hope someone steps in to run that munch.  […]
Collaring workshop tonight - So.. tonight I’ll be dragging my slave along to my workshop.. “Collaring from the heart”.  It will be nice to have a little eye candy at my feet for this thang! Looks like sign ups have been pretty light, which is fine.  It means we’ll be more cozy, and have the opportunity to be more […]
Collars, then and now - I’ve been asked to do my workshop, “Collaring from the heart” and so collars have been on my mind.  Funny how when you hold a thought in your head, other things start to connect to it. I was listening to a NYC area financial planner talk about scams that are made on the elderly and […]
Company lunchroom (& BDSM) - So.. I was in the company lunchroom, preparing a sandwich and as I was cutting it in half before bringing it back to my desk, I thought.. this would make a pretty good play knife.. nice balance, no serrations, kinda sharp, I’d have to be very careful. And then I thought.. who the hell thinks […]
Core Values and Beliefs - ZEALOTRY!  –  This life I lead has religious overtones.  Use my blog widget to search my blog for the word zealot.  I am one for BDSM.  The word seems to keep coming up.  So excuse me if this bores you, but I have been thinking lately about what defines me, what my core values and […]
Crazy hours and rabbit holes - I have been working simply crazy hours.  I haven’t taken a day off in three weeks.  Hell, I was supposed to take of Friday, but then this happened and that.  Been working at the computer at home, while Izrina plays on Xbox. I am not complaining.  I like the sense of accomplishment. I also like […]
Creative Writing – knife play - Written some time ago, I present this is semi-fictional, a collection of things I’ve done with sharp pointy things, but not all together with the same person, as presented here. The term tanto, along with other interesting knife terms can be found at one of my favorite knife sites: Knife Anatomy by Jay Fisher Edge […]
Cup is half full - You cannot live on this earth for very long and not hear someone pose the question:  Is the cup half full or half empty? It annoys me, this smug little bit of supposed philosophical inquiry.  Let me share with you what Master X does with those who choose to toy with me this way.  My […]
Daddy’s girl (& a BBQ) - Buckle up boys and girls, for this ride, you have to be this tall. This is not however, the kinky little blog you were hoping for. My daughter has long shown an interest in what I do and she knows that she is much happier with a boy toy than a boy friend.  In other […]
Dancing with a handful of hair - People are pouring in tonight for the North East Power exchange competitions.  Sat with folks from Pennsylvanian and Maryland and chatted..  and danced… and chatted some more.  Warm glows from this evening… (chuckles)… At one point the conversation was about fisting, and Sno is talking in practical terms about how to make the err.. “entry” […]
DasT, like MasT, only better - Tonight was the Dom/sub round table at Feel Me Breath.  Think of it like a MasT meeting.  Its a round table of Masters and slaves together on equal footing.  There are index cards, and questions go in to a bucket to be answered.  In this forum, you get every perspective. The meeting typically runs rather […]
Dinner and a movie - I was in the mood to watch “The Quiet Man” this evening.  If you are not familiar I recommend finding it and watching it.  It’s an old movie that stars John Wayne and Maureen O’Hara.  If you’ve seen it, you know why it might appeal to a person who lives the power exchange life.  Some […]
Dinner, on her knees - I was thinking, do I want to skip writing tonight? What do I have to write about? What pleased me, in a BDSM way today. I thought of Dinner, served with her protocols, and I thought, this pleased me, I should talk about that. I love imposing structure and protocols. I love when my slave […]
Discipline vs Punishment - November 27th, in brutal cold that froze guns and men alike,  120,000 Chinese troops began an offensive to kill 30,000 men that were part of the United Nations troops in the Chosin reservoir area.  The year was 1950.  The country was Korea. American solders who had fought in World war II had seen their fair […]
Discussion with another generation - My mother is in her seventies, closer to eighties really, and as with any generation difference we have different values and ways of looking at things.  That’s something important to remember when I’m dealing with my daughter.. but I digress… I’d like to share a recent conversation we had regarding BDSM, because it had me […]
Do you “get it”? - Being happy is a hard thing to learn.  To find your happiness, you have to let go.  There is no trust, no faith, no complex dogma, no concept to embrace. If you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans ~ Sno Quote When bad things happen, how can we still be happy?  How […]
Do you read faces? - On vacation.  This is one I wrote and never posted.. One from the can, so to speak.  I have one I really, really want to write, but we have a whole lot of fun things to do.  I’ll get to it.  It has to do with a comment by Vile, to a comment I made.  […]
Does your humility interfere with your slavery? - I like a shy slave.  A “we’re not worthy” kind of slave.  I feel like those slaves really understand my gift of Dominance…  But then reality sets in… I can’t tell you the number of times a slave has said something like: “I don’t know if I am good enough..”   My response is.. “What?!!! […]
Domination on Blogs, the quirks - I have to tell you that part of my control has to do with timing.  I will reveal information when it has the most use and impact.  If you read yesterday’s blog, you know that Monday I was unhappy but doubled down on the things I wanted addressed and yesterday was better.  I kind of […]
Doms don’t cry - You slaves out there are in for a rare treat tonight.  I am going to share with you some insights, a view into things an experienced Dominant won’t usually reveal. A worthy Dominant will do things for their slave, that the slave is never aware of.  We know our sacred role is to protect you […]
Doms don’t cry – part 2 - Some time ago, I wrote a piece called “Dom’s don’t cry”.  You can go back and read it or I’ll just summarize here.  Essentially, my point was because our gift is Domination, we can’t give it to someone that doesn’t want what we have to offer.  A slave must crave what we offer.  The begging […]
Doms don’t cry, part 3 - Just when you thought the “Dom’s don’t cry” series was done, ta da!  Yes, rising from the dead like some Halloween fright, is yet another chapter in this series. In “Doms don’t cry, part 1”, I spoke to the fact that if you are not compatible in a Ds kind of way, a Dom just […]
Ds “quickies” - You know what a “quickie” is, right?  Its when you slip into the shower and “get some” before showing up five minutes late for work.  Or maybe you are at a dinner party and “share” the bathroom before checking that your clothes and hair are properly back in place.  Sure we all like to start […]
Ending on a high note - First, I must mention that my slave asked me to not mention a certain something from this weekend, and she reads my blog, so naturally I am starting off by hinting that I might mention it, just to torture her.  Its the WEM in me. This weekend is an odd one.  In most respects its […]
Evil Doms - This is titled “Evil Doms” but it might also be titled “Snow storms and slaves, part 2”.  Part one is here.    There are a few ex-lover types out there, and you may recognize them.. One type makes you feel wonderful about yourself.  They are complimentary, and love everything about you.. they make you feel attractive […]
Father of the bride - Just two weeks to go.  I am to be the father of the bride at a collaring ceremony.  Raven pup, an old and dear friend with whom I love to play, is being collared to Tonya, aka the fairy Queen.  I love them both dearly. I’ve promised a fire scene out to one of her […]
First 30 minutes – Sorry - First 30 minutes – I make the decisions in this home.  I am the Master.  Most “normal” people would think of Izrina as my girl.   But we are not “normal”, Izrina is my slave.  When she needs a decision from me, she knows this.. NEVER hit me in the first 30 minutes, AFTER I get […]
FMB, UCLA research, & Sno - First things first – for those who follow this blog and want to know if we went to Feel Me Breath last night, yes, and Izrina had a lovely beating.  About forty five minutes of leather foreplay and a little over thirty minutes of fire, and she was zoom, zoom.  I grabbed a bottle of […]
Freedom - Together, these three quote give us a picture of life in a microcosm. I can not create a minute, even the minutes of my life belong to a higher force. The only thing I truly own, are my choices. ~Xtac Quote We are always free to choose.  We are not however, free to choose the […]
Freedom - I was thinking about what I would say to a therapist, if I were to try to explain who and what I am.  My first thought was this:  I am the product of either environment or biological wiring, and I am looking for the person who has the opposite need to mine.  That is, to […]
Fucking Snow.. again - Ha… funny title… One of my best friends goes by the name Sno…and is female, and hot, but no I am not talking about fucking someone name Snow.. not even talking about fucking in the snow… What I am talking about is that I will drive in shit most people would not even consider.  You […]
Ghosts of Christmas past - Today I would like to share a semi-fictional story, based on a real event. It all begins at a Christmas party, many years ago… GHOSTS OF CHRISTMAS PAST –  a semi-fictional tale. He strode into the room, feeling all of the power and confidence of his position.  A fairly young manager, who worked out regularly, […]
Good girl - Tonight my slave made the meal she wanted to last night.  She had been planning this for some time, but added too much milk to the batter yesterday, and had to scrap the project.  Tonight she got it right.  The poor thing also burned herself.  I put fire on her all the time..she’s a bit […]
Gym time, and abuse - So, I went to the gym today to abuse my muscles some more and after a good upper body workout, I moved to the treadmills to burn a few more calories.  Also to make sure that my heart stays healthy enough for sex.  That’s important too! I unplugged my music and jacked into the TV […]
Happy fathers day! - If we think of humanity in very ancient terms, we go back to the hunters and the gatherers.  This basic division of roles is what drives the whole, men are from mars and women are from venus observations.  But truth be told, this division is less gender based and more role based.  The hunters are […]
Have a nice day! - Have a nice day!   This is just one of the many platitude people throw at you every day.  There are so many. Since I enjoy being a social sadist from time to time, I love to have fun with these. Joe! How are you?  Just hand me a loaded gun why don’t you?  Throw this […]
He’d better! - Bad vibes ahead! – I was approaching a gaggle of nilla women and I wanted to cross the street.  I just knew the vibes were bad and the closer I got the more I knew I didn’t want to linger near these people.  As I walked by, I heard “He’d better appreciate it because I […]
I am a temporary tatto artist - I was updating my  Disqus account and under Biography and I entered this: Master, consensual property owner, and temporary tattoo artist The temporary tattoo artist requires explanation. To explain that, I am essentially re-posting an explanation from my Fetlife writings.  That being said, this is exactly why I refer to myself as such. It seems […]
I am a zealot - My poor slave has given herself to a zealot but so far its working out pretty well for both of us. ABOUT ZEALOTS – It was a zealot who first said, the beatings will continue until moral improves!  Now when I say zealot, I am talking about those folks who were searching for answers, and […]
I am ignoring you, slave! - Unbelievable! – Can you imagine a responsible Master saying to their slave, “I am ignoring you!”?  Neither can I.   At first blush, I would say NO Master would ever do that.  We are sworn to take away your burdens, to shoulder your worries, we listen dutifully and we act. Truth is it happens, it happens […]
I am offended - If a tree falls in the woods doe it make a sound?  There is a science that boarders on philosophy and religion that says a thing is neither black nor white until it is observed. If that is correct, then the answer is no. More importantly, if observation creates reality, how much of the reality […]
I hate being told what to do - The subject is tasks, autonomy and trust.  Today’s events at work and events with my slave, made me give some thought to this.  When someone tells me to do something that I was already doing, or had planned to do, it pisses me off.  I see this in other people too.  When a person tells […]
I hate that I am starting to hate titles - Sub vs Slave What is the value of a word if that word has no value until the person using it personally defines it? Welcome to the complex world of subs and slaves. ~Xtac Quote   I am NOT going to discuss the difference between a sub and a slave.  What I am going to […]
I’ll tell you what a slave is - I read these two comments recently on Fetlife: A blog is just one person’s point of view and may not be wise to follow. Blogs are equal to online public journals. Usually has very limited educational value, nor may be even possible to do. Well.. I don’t take the random pontificating of internet blogs very […]
Identity research – your help requested - So, as I was reading my previous post, I began to wonder.. is there a connection between politics and BDSM identity?  I never said that a submissive is going to lean left, or that a Dominant is going to lean right, but it is a curious thought, don’t you think? Let’s find out, shall we? […]
Insanity, plus slaves in skirts - If you read Trouble in “X town” ~ with hair! then you know my concern with my slave and skirts.  Basically, I’m weird.  I like Izrina to keep soft, unshaven hair on her legs but then she needs to shave if she is going to wear a skirt. And if you read MINE! …. (mine) […]
It IS about the pussy - I hope Vile, a blogger I respect and appreciate.. has a sense of humor about this. He has put out a number of pieces now in which he states firmly. .It is not about the pussy..  I was completing an interview with him and one question was about being a Bedroom Dominant, and I stated […]
Knives on New Years Eve - The room was dimly lit. The sound and heat of a crackling fire warmed her.  She could hear, but not see, blindfolded and chained to a Saint Andrews Cross as she was, in the center of the room.  The sound of him drawing his knife from its sheath reached her ears, and then came the […]
Life happens - I was a new assistant manager and one thing went wrong, then another, then another. My manager called in from his vacation, and when I explained with some distress all that was going on, he laughed and said “trial by fire”. A long time ago I learned to juggle many responsibilities.  But juggling responsibilities is […]
Losing at love.. Fear! - Each day, my slave honors me with two rituals.  In the morning, it is the ritual of appreciation.  You will find more about that in this blog.   This morning, I didn’t notice the text, asking for my gift of domination.  So I called while on the way to work.  “I think you owe me a […]
Love and BDSM - You don’t need Love for BDSM.  In fact, for some people they explicitly don’t want a Master or slave relation tainted by love.   For some, love is a detractor to the relation.  They want the unfettered cold hand of control with a sense that the person wielding the power is not troubled in the […]
Love and hugs - A few blogs back, I had dropped off my daughter at College and while things were OK, I just wasn’t feeling it.. that joy I so often feel that springs up inside and keeps on bubbling to the surface like some artesian well. Well a number of people read this blog, and a few are […]
MacGyver, Emancipation, Force Fantasy - My slave will put in a DVD and start to watch a movie, while I am otherwise occupied.  Soon I’ll start to watch, and when it gets really good, I’ll look over and she is grinning.. yup.. she’s picked something just nerdy enough to suck me in and the wench knows it too. In fact, […]
Manipulation and inspiration - Leaders inspire people to follow them.  Leaders have followers. That’s it, nothing more.  A leader doesn’t need a title or the gravity of authority to get people to follow them.  They can be high on the chain of command or low.  Often a leader IS someone lower in rank, a person working for someone in […]
Manipulation, trust & slave happiness - A psychologist would probably be horrified at the emotional manipulations I put my slave through, but it works for us. I wrote of trust, and how sometimes I might combine my sadist side with my gentleman side.  In a similar way, I sometimes appear to be mean to my slave, but I am in fact […]
Many protocols, two rules - I was speaking with a dear friend, Katz.  She and her partner have a very complex Dominant/switch, poly relation that is a pleasure to observe.  Before I go into that conversation though, time for a “Living with X” update.  Tonight was the Hudson Valley Love of Leather munch (HVLOL).  For those of you who follow […]
Master of her desires - I used the phrase recently: “Master of her desires”. Let’s examine this, shall we?  Master of her desires..HER desires.  I am not HER Master, she can not own me, I own her.  I am the Master she serves.  When others would say “I”, she says, “this slave”.  Me, my, mine.  These are stricken from her […]
Master of mayhem – and lost socks - Do you sometimes dread going on vacation because you know when you get back the boss is going to have messed up everything?   Back in the seventies, when a database consisted of index cards and a card out of place might stay lost for quite some time, along with that customers information and records, it […]
Master’s orders - A quick health update..  cold moved from my throat, to my ears, to my sinuses..  Been chasing that sucker around the body and it just doesn’t want to quit.  I kind of feel sorry for Izrina since she has been looking forward to a relaxing week off and instead had to endure coughing 24 x7.  […]
May the force be with you - I have often heard folks in the BDSM community offer a simple explanation for the difference between a sub and a slave: A slave makes one choice, who they will serve.   Well!  When you put it that way it seems pretty simple. The problem is, when two people enter into an intense relationship, things are […]
Merry Christmass - A Merry Kinky Christmass my friends… because everything is better when it ends with some “ass”. Especially a red ass. During the Holidays, I like to sit and watch those schmaltzy Christmas movies.  It puts me in a frame of mind that believes there is hope for the whole world. We are supposed to be […]
Metaphorically speaking… and fire play - I read this on a T-shirt recently… Your use of literally makes me figuratively insane Ha!  Funny!  Speaking of funny, you know in the beginning, way back on blog one, I said: My thought is to make a public diary, a stream of observations as they come to me, and not put any ego into […]
Michael Makai – the final word - I am going to go out on thin ice here.  So right up front, let me set the record straight on a few things. First, I don’t think that defending Michael benefits the cause of BDSM in any way.  Second, a lot of people immediately convicted him based on the news reports.  Three, I am […]