– Date Inde X – –

A new beginning February 28, 2016 - I’ve started blogs before.  MySpace, FaceBook, Blogger, GooglePlus.  They gain popularity, then fade or your words get lost in the clutter, sniping, and struggle to create and hold an audience.  These mediums all seems so transient, feeding a need for constant stimulation.  It’s the same old stuff, regurgitated over and over, always in new ways.  […]
My smoking jacket & pipe February 29, 2016 - I am the Master of my property.  This is a TPE or CNC relationship.  A long time ago, I started to be amused when my slave’s behavior needed correction but that’s a blog for another time.  On this particular day, while she was working she checked in as ordered.  I announced I was thinking of […]
Uncommon Currency March 1, 2016 - If you are just looking for what uncommon currency is, skip to the second half of this piece.  Tonight, I start with a quote “It takes more strength to be a slave than a Master. You may disagree but it is the slave who demonstrates strength and courage with their commitment to an uncommon currency; […]
May the force be with you March 2, 2016 - I have often heard folks in the BDSM community offer a simple explanation for the difference between a sub and a slave: A slave makes one choice, who they will serve.   Well!  When you put it that way it seems pretty simple. The problem is, when two people enter into an intense relationship, things are […]
Old men in parking lots March 2, 2016 - It was a cool night long ago in the parking lot of a diner not far from a dungeon that no longer exists. Why were we there and why isn’t the dungeon there now? Well both are stories worth telling. Maybe in another blog I talk more about all the clubs and places to place […]
Dinner and a movie March 3, 2016 - I was in the mood to watch “The Quiet Man” this evening.  If you are not familiar I recommend finding it and watching it.  It’s an old movie that stars John Wayne and Maureen O’Hara.  If you’ve seen it, you know why it might appeal to a person who lives the power exchange life.  Some […]
Black, white, shades of grey March 5, 2016 - This is NOT about the book.  Its about tonight’s munch, and an epiphany.  It was a nice day.  I had lunch with my biological family, then supper with my kinky family. At the munch I had the opportunity to sit with three folk. One was very new and had questions.  I pulled out my soapbox, […]
I am offended March 6, 2016 - If a tree falls in the woods doe it make a sound?  There is a science that boarders on philosophy and religion that says a thing is neither black nor white until it is observed. If that is correct, then the answer is no. More importantly, if observation creates reality, how much of the reality […]
Respect March 7, 2016 - I wrote to a slave yesterday and as is my way, I asked if I needed to obtain permission from her Master to speak with her, or if she did.  She replied:  “Sir – to talk … requires only respect on my part.”   I have strong convictions about the subject, so let’s talk about […]
March 10, 2016 - I have wondered what it might be like to be less physically capable, and still be a Dominant.  I’ve wondered what kind of woman would bind herself to an elderly man that she would have to care for.  I am going to answer that question with two videos.   If you have not seen this […]
Have a nice day! March 10, 2016 - Have a nice day!   This is just one of the many platitude people throw at you every day.  There are so many. Since I enjoy being a social sadist from time to time, I love to have fun with these. Joe! How are you?  Just hand me a loaded gun why don’t you?  Throw this […]
I hate that I am starting to hate titles March 12, 2016 - Sub vs Slave What is the value of a word if that word has no value until the person using it personally defines it? Welcome to the complex world of subs and slaves. ~Xtac Quote   I am NOT going to discuss the difference between a sub and a slave.  What I am going to […]
When a Master loses their temper March 13, 2016 - Absolute power corrupts absolutely -It has been said that absolute power corrupts absolutely.  You may think that being a Master is all you need to get everything you desire from another human being but human beings are funny things.  A person may say they will give you absolute control over everything but their right to […]
I’ll tell you what a slave is March 13, 2016 - I read these two comments recently on Fetlife: A blog is just one person’s point of view and may not be wise to follow. Blogs are equal to online public journals. Usually has very limited educational value, nor may be even possible to do. Well.. I don’t take the random pontificating of internet blogs very […]
Dinner, on her knees March 15, 2016 - I was thinking, do I want to skip writing tonight? What do I have to write about? What pleased me, in a BDSM way today. I thought of Dinner, served with her protocols, and I thought, this pleased me, I should talk about that. I love imposing structure and protocols. I love when my slave […]
There is one true way March 19, 2016 - I am taking my biggest, pointiest stick out and poking the bear. No PC here! It’s about science Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Clause, and one true way. But much like Santa Clause is real in the hearts of men, and therefore real, the one true way is real because there is an objective […]
Behavioral training – is it consensual? March 20, 2016 - Tonight, I wanted to write about training Dominants.  My slave changed my mind. So this is partly about training Dominants to be better at behavioral training, but also, its about how that training is or isn’t consensual. Some things you can’t teach people.  I have seen very mousy people announce that they want to be […]
Sportsbars and Subway cars April 2, 2016 - It has been a long and glorious evening, preceded by a Friday that marked the end of yet another work week.  As I thought about this evening, its events and highlights, I decide on the title “Sports bars and Subway cars”, a slightly enigmatic bit that I will tie into later. For now though let […]
I hate being told what to do April 16, 2016 - The subject is tasks, autonomy and trust.  Today’s events at work and events with my slave, made me give some thought to this.  When someone tells me to do something that I was already doing, or had planned to do, it pisses me off.  I see this in other people too.  When a person tells […]
Simple pleasures (of Master & slave) April 30, 2016 - The days as Master and slave roll by unremarkable; simple days filled with simple pleasures. What then to write about when nothing is wrong, nothing needs fixing, and no new great epiphany has been uncovered?    Some  years ago a wealthy and successful song writer lamented that now that life was so good, he no longer […]
Bedroom rituals May 7, 2016 - I lie in bed, my arms folded behind my head, I wait with the confident assurance of the God of the bedroom I know myself to be.  She approaches the bed and kneels beside it, head bows and repeats the words made familiar by years of repeating the ritual.  I wait for the question.  She […]
Slavery during personal tragedy May 8, 2016 - When you are the proud owner of a consensual slave, you will find yourself at some point dealing with a person who has suffered a tragic loss.  Now tragedies come in all sizes, large and small.  When a person loses a loved one, this is one of those large tragedies.  Even if we have a […]
The spiritual side of BDSM May 9, 2016 - There is a spiritual side of BDSM.  Hmmmm that is not quite right.  When you are a spiritual person, all things are fodder for your spiritual journey.  THAT is more correct. So what is a spiritual person?  When I say this, I don’t mean a Christian or Jew or Muslim or Buddhist.  I mean that […]
Appreciation May 13, 2016 - On a perfect morning, I awake to the smell of fresh brewed coffee beside me, and my slave performing oral service.  Noticing that am awake she mews: What is Masters pleasure this morning?  Perhaps I let her finish, or perhaps my immediate need is to have her snuggled under my arm.  At some point, content […]
A slave has THREE choices May 16, 2016 - This is old and replace by this >  DRAFT TWO.  Why not delete this one then?  I think it helps see that this concept when through an evolution, that I didn’t just arrive at this and declare it.  That through conversation, feedback, and thought, I arrived at the thoughts in draft two.  I believe in […]
The sexual side of submission May 17, 2016 - Come bitch tigress,  Sacrifice to me,  Your virgin reputation, Set the sex beast free.  You cat in crouching, waiting, to claw my muscled body lean, lick your lips and purr the words, ride the raging beast obscene. Ahhh, wetness, and hardness.  The electricity in touch.  A handful of hair.  A rough shove against a wall, […]
The care and feeding of a slave May 19, 2016 - The responsible slave owner puts the needs of their slave ahead of all other priorities. You wouldn’t lock a dog in a room for a week while you go on vacation.  You would find someone to care for your pet in your absence.  In the same way, a responsible owner sees to the care of […]
The Power of consent May 20, 2016 - I came across an interesting quote in a blog by Isabellalecour : ” Where love rules, there is no will to power; and where power predominates, there love is lacking. The one is the shadow of the other. ” -Carl Jung It caused me, as these things do, to spend quite a bit of time […]
I am a temporary tatto artist May 22, 2016 - I was updating my  Disqus account and under Biography and I entered this: Master, consensual property owner, and temporary tattoo artist The temporary tattoo artist requires explanation. To explain that, I am essentially re-posting an explanation from my Fetlife writings.  That being said, this is exactly why I refer to myself as such. It seems […]
Uncontested control. May 26, 2016 - I find that I am pleased by this term.. uncontested control.  Just as I am very displeased to have my control contested. There was a time that, when my slave exercised her power of consent and contested by administration, I would become angry.  I no longer allow myself to feel that way.  I am working […]
Good girl May 26, 2016 - Tonight my slave made the meal she wanted to last night.  She had been planning this for some time, but added too much milk to the batter yesterday, and had to scrap the project.  Tonight she got it right.  The poor thing also burned herself.  I put fire on her all the time..she’s a bit […]
DasT, like MasT, only better May 28, 2016 - Tonight was the Dom/sub round table at Feel Me Breath.  Think of it like a MasT meeting.  Its a round table of Masters and slaves together on equal footing.  There are index cards, and questions go in to a bucket to be answered.  In this forum, you get every perspective. The meeting typically runs rather […]
A BDSM central authority (and sleep) May 29, 2016 - One question that came up the other night was.. If you had the magical power to change one thing about BDSM,  in general, what would that change be? That conversation wandered about, and one person jokingly said that persons that were assholes would glow in the dark so we could keep better eye on them.  […]
A slave has THREE choices – draft two May 30, 2016 - Note, this is cross published from my Dominant support group in Fetlife which can be seen here.  (You will need a Fetlife account to view) Also, the FINAL DRAFT can be found here: A slave has three responsibilities A slave has three areas of choice When I first proposed that a slave has three choices, […]
Doms don’t cry June 2, 2016 - You slaves out there are in for a rare treat tonight.  I am going to share with you some insights, a view into things an experienced Dominant won’t usually reveal. A worthy Dominant will do things for their slave, that the slave is never aware of.  We know our sacred role is to protect you […]
The gift of the Magi June 4, 2016 - If you are not familiar with “The gift of the magi”, a husband and wife each sell something precious they own, to buy something for the other, only to realize the gift they gave is designed to go with the thing the other sold.  So now each as a gift, that goes with the thing […]
Collars, then and now June 6, 2016 - I’ve been asked to do my workshop, “Collaring from the heart” and so collars have been on my mind.  Funny how when you hold a thought in your head, other things start to connect to it. I was listening to a NYC area financial planner talk about scams that are made on the elderly and […]
Life happens June 29, 2016 - I was a new assistant manager and one thing went wrong, then another, then another. My manager called in from his vacation, and when I explained with some distress all that was going on, he laughed and said “trial by fire”. A long time ago I learned to juggle many responsibilities.  But juggling responsibilities is […]
Why does an Owner listen? July 5, 2016 - I am sitting here mulling over one of the paradoxes of TPE.  We don’t don’t fight. If you haven’t experienced a successful TPE relation, then you may have misunderstandings about the lack of drama, the lack of fighting. You may think that I am describing an unhealthy relation. – that drama does not happen because […]
The gentleman sadist July 7, 2016 - I am not a sadist, I’m a temporary tattoo artist.  To understand that comment, you’ll need to find my earlier blog on that.  But I do have a sadistic streak and it has lead to one of the two pet name my slave has for me.  One is WEM or wicked evil man.  The other, […]
Manipulation, trust & slave happiness July 9, 2016 - A psychologist would probably be horrified at the emotional manipulations I put my slave through, but it works for us. I wrote of trust, and how sometimes I might combine my sadist side with my gentleman side.  In a similar way, I sometimes appear to be mean to my slave, but I am in fact […]
Power, love, consent July 10, 2016 - What is is about things in three?  To my thinking, there are three slave responsibilities.  There are three slave choices.  There are three traditional collars.  There are three keys to BDSM.  If you are not living a lifestyle, if this is your orientation, then power, love and consent is the air we breath.  I need […]
A movie, and laughter July 11, 2016 - This weekend I took my property to a movie.  We saw the new “Independence Day” movie.  It was good.  Lots of wonderful Sci-Fi scenes and action and an unexpected amount of comic relief that I quite enjoyed.  Sitting together in the dark, Jeff Goldblum or some other character would drop something unexpected into the drama […]
I am a zealot July 12, 2016 - My poor slave has given herself to a zealot but so far its working out pretty well for both of us. ABOUT ZEALOTS – It was a zealot who first said, the beatings will continue until moral improves!  Now when I say zealot, I am talking about those folks who were searching for answers, and […]
Collaring workshop tonight July 15, 2016 - So.. tonight I’ll be dragging my slave along to my workshop.. “Collaring from the heart”.  It will be nice to have a little eye candy at my feet for this thang! Looks like sign ups have been pretty light, which is fine.  It means we’ll be more cozy, and have the opportunity to be more […]
Thinking about types July 17, 2016 - So I’m reading some older stuff by some of the bloggers I like, and hopping around through their likes and dislikes, and I come across a piece by emdimensional.  Its a blog that is sensitive and well thought out and well spoken and it gets my juices going to think and research.  The piece I […]
Collaring from the heart, An”X” workshop July 17, 2016 - So, I promised an update on how the workshop went.  If you didn’t catch that in an earlier blog, Friday night I gave my workshop “Collaring from the heart”, at “Feel Me Breathe”. Feel Me Breathe, is part dungeon, part playground, part leather family center, part workshop area, and well, basically an extension of everything […]
Michael Makai – the final word July 18, 2016 - I am going to go out on thin ice here.  So right up front, let me set the record straight on a few things. First, I don’t think that defending Michael benefits the cause of BDSM in any way.  Second, a lot of people immediately convicted him based on the news reports.  Three, I am […]
Gym time, and abuse July 20, 2016 - So, I went to the gym today to abuse my muscles some more and after a good upper body workout, I moved to the treadmills to burn a few more calories.  Also to make sure that my heart stays healthy enough for sex.  That’s important too! I unplugged my music and jacked into the TV […]
Sweet mornings July 21, 2016 - One thing I can not abide is dishes left in a sink.  Any time my slave does this, she can fully expect me to say something about it.  Now I will never say, “That makes me mad”.  I don’t believe in letting anything “make you” anything.  I will decide what “makes me”.  What I will […]
Sweet Evenings July 22, 2016 - When you dedicate your life to happiness.. you can annoy the hell out of everyone around you!  Woo Hoo! This is really a continuation of my last blog: sweet mornings. If you haven’t read it, you may want to go to page one first.  THIS blog is mostly about two things:  meals and dishes.  And […]
Do you “get it”? July 23, 2016 - Being happy is a hard thing to learn.  To find your happiness, you have to let go.  There is no trust, no faith, no complex dogma, no concept to embrace. If you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans ~ Sno Quote When bad things happen, how can we still be happy?  How […]
Rejoice my special people! July 24, 2016 - .             Cross posted from Fetlife  (must have an account to open) As we all know, we are all special. Do you get tired of pointing this out? Then rejoice all ye special people. X has the answer! Here is your very own copy and paste reply for every forum. It doesn’t matter what the subject […]
Ending on a high note July 24, 2016 - First, I must mention that my slave asked me to not mention a certain something from this weekend, and she reads my blog, so naturally I am starting off by hinting that I might mention it, just to torture her.  Its the WEM in me. This weekend is an odd one.  In most respects its […]
0Oooooo! Shiny! July 25, 2016 - Never dangle shiny things in front of a squirrel, and never dangle a squirrel in front of a dog..~ And you can quote me!   Hmmmm but maybe together they might be OK? right?  Formula probably calls for an excess of alcohol though, just saying. I had to do it.  A little bit of playing around […]
What the puck? July 26, 2016 - Sniggle snort-in fligg-im flort sloppy floppy short-shorts Jiggle wiggle big be-diggle pokey muckin fuggin buck (giggle suck) What the puck?!!!! (Lots of pluck) Guzzel muzzel make-in trouble grin-in drib-Lin still a win-in humpy bumpy rode-in blue ass jeans Dusty trucks, fulla luck git-in some, lots to come near-in end, whatta bend humpy little monkey me […]
Cognitive behavioral therapy July 27, 2016 - CBT teaches that a person’s core beliefs can be broken in three primary categories: Yourself, Others, and the future. Our thoughts on self, others, and the future; along with our core beliefs on these things, influences our feelings and by extension our behaviors. If we inject new core beliefs, and moderate our thoughts, we can […]
Talking WITH Vile July 27, 2016 - SO VERY VILE  – So I had a little back and forth with one my favorite Bloggers, Vile of “The Kinky world of Vile”.  Yeah, he’s all that and a bad of chips.. good stuff.  Seriously.  Check him out.  The subject was conversing, which is kind of funny because here we were talking.. about talking.. […]
A woman and her cat July 29, 2016 - A woman and her cat – There once was a woman who had a cat and when she came home at night she and the cat were very cozy and happy together.  Then the cat had kittens and she couldn’t part with them all and kept a few.  Each kitten became a cat and each […]
Retard! July 29, 2016 - I know its politically incorrect to say retard but I can’t for the life of me think of a better word to describe how socially and intellectually stunted the two individuals I am referring to here, must be.  How else do you explain this?   This a real conversation I overheard yesterday in a restaurant.  I […]
Checking my ego July 30, 2016 - If you follow this blog, you know that this evening was one I was really looking forward to.  I  had a rosy picture in my head of how wonderful it was going to be, when I was with my own kind.  Here’s the thing – – that doesn’t always work out the way the you […]
The reason is, because reasons July 30, 2016 - So a little sleep then breakfast with family.  Always drama with that bunch.  I’ve come to a place where family is often more chore than pleasure.   But breakfast was good, and the conversation pleasant enough, so it was nice. My car has been in the shop all week, had to pick that up afterward.  It […]
The value of subs being treated as Doms July 31, 2016 - The value of equality – In our local support group for Doms and subs, Doms are expected to be less like a Mistress or Master and check their egos at the door.  Slaves and subs are expected to be more like dominants, speak up, and find their voice.  One rule designed to accomplish this is […]
Daddy’s girl (& a BBQ) August 1, 2016 - Buckle up boys and girls, for this ride, you have to be this tall. This is not however, the kinky little blog you were hoping for. My daughter has long shown an interest in what I do and she knows that she is much happier with a boy toy than a boy friend.  In other […]
The danger of removing free will August 2, 2016 - Are there any Calvin and Hobbes fans out there?   Hope so, cause here is a dialog from a comic that caught my eye this evening: Calvin:   Do you believe our destinies are determined by the stars? Hobbes: Nah. Calvin:   Oh I do. Hobbes: Really? How come? Calvin:   Life’s a lot more fun when you’re not […]
Many protocols, two rules August 6, 2016 - I was speaking with a dear friend, Katz.  She and her partner have a very complex Dominant/switch, poly relation that is a pleasure to observe.  Before I go into that conversation though, time for a “Living with X” update.  Tonight was the Hudson Valley Love of Leather munch (HVLOL).  For those of you who follow […]
Swamps, slaves, and ice cream August 8, 2016 - What the hell can these three things have in common, I am sure you ask.  Let’s find out, shall we?  Its been a very long day, but a very beautiful one.  It started early with crawling under the car to do an oil change.  I could pay someone to do it, but there is something […]
MacGyver, Emancipation, Force Fantasy August 9, 2016 - My slave will put in a DVD and start to watch a movie, while I am otherwise occupied.  Soon I’ll start to watch, and when it gets really good, I’ll look over and she is grinning.. yup.. she’s picked something just nerdy enough to suck me in and the wench knows it too. In fact, […]
Master of her desires August 11, 2016 - I used the phrase recently: “Master of her desires”. Let’s examine this, shall we?  Master of her desires..HER desires.  I am not HER Master, she can not own me, I own her.  I am the Master she serves.  When others would say “I”, she says, “this slave”.  Me, my, mine.  These are stricken from her […]
Master of mayhem – and lost socks August 11, 2016 - Do you sometimes dread going on vacation because you know when you get back the boss is going to have messed up everything?   Back in the seventies, when a database consisted of index cards and a card out of place might stay lost for quite some time, along with that customers information and records, it […]
“How to be gay”, or a Master August 14, 2016 - So, where the hell did the title for this blog come from?  Let me peel back the skull cap for a  twisting, turning look at all the thoughts that lead up to this blog and its wildly inappropriate title. This is going to be a long one, so take a back seat and prepare to […]
A picnic, a grandmother, & bite marks August 14, 2016 - A picnic – So as mentioned, I took my 80 something mother to our love of leather picnic today.  Also my 18 year old daughter. Three generations, with me the lone male in the middle.  Its an interesting scenario, and interesting it was.  It was entirely too fucking hot though..  The Fword is inappropriate, yes, […]
They call me “M” August 15, 2016 - Depends on who you talk with.  My direct reports call me Manager.  My slave calls me Master.  Either way, they call me “M”. You would think the distinction between being a manager and a Master is  worlds apart but lets take a closer look shall we?. In some ways they are, and some ways they […]
Do you read faces? August 17, 2016 - On vacation.  This is one I wrote and never posted.. One from the can, so to speak.  I have one I really, really want to write, but we have a whole lot of fun things to do.  I’ll get to it.  It has to do with a comment by Vile, to a comment I made.  […]
Roller coasters and Masters August 18, 2016 - I am on vacation.  So its travel, museums,   good food, and roller coasters.  Interrupted by Ds now an then simply by virtue of our protocols.  Opening the car door, strapping her seat belt, permission to start eating in the dinner, selecting her drinks and food.   When you live it, Ds creeps into every […]
Vacations and anger August 19, 2016 - Today is the day of the much dreaded gift store and mandatory vacation gift shopping.  I am not a fan.  I hate trinkets and clutter.  Except if the clutter is books, entertainment, or tools.  These I can never get enough of. So as we were walking through the amusement park, I found myself behind a […]
My secret submissive life August 20, 2016 - Shocking!  – Sometimes I choose to not act like a Dominant —gasp!   Double gasp, because I take inspiration for these blogs from my own life.   What you must ask, could I  possibly have done recently, to have me thinking of a submissive side?  There is rarely a time when some aspect of what I am […]
FMB, UCLA research, & Sno August 21, 2016 - First things first – for those who follow this blog and want to know if we went to Feel Me Breath last night, yes, and Izrina had a lovely beating.  About forty five minutes of leather foreplay and a little over thirty minutes of fire, and she was zoom, zoom.  I grabbed a bottle of […]
The (Vile) blog I’ve been putting off August 22, 2016 - I have been wanting to get to this, but procrastination is a terrible thing to waste. Compatibility  – Its been said that a Master and slave should be compatible if they are going to be happy with each others likes and dislikes.  Its been said that a Master and slave only need to like being […]
Freedom August 24, 2016 - Together, these three quote give us a picture of life in a microcosm. I can not create a minute, even the minutes of my life belong to a higher force. The only thing I truly own, are my choices. ~Xtac Quote We are always free to choose.  We are not however, free to choose the […]
All this sin,and I sleep August 27, 2016 - Around 18 hours ago I got up to do a few things before heading to Vegas.  All tasks, travel, flights, and check-ins are behind me at last.  Here I sit in my hotel in Sin city and all I want to do is collapse.  Its 1:30 am here but my brain still thinks its 4:30 […]
Two rituals, part 1 August 27, 2016 - We have two rituals, one for for each end of the day.  While we are apart, they keep me feeling connected.  Its nice.  They both have very specific purposes.  I think its worth mentioning both, and why they exist.  Like everything I do, they came into being after considerable thought. Ritual one – Daily appreciation […]
Bonus blog! – Removing free will, part 2 August 28, 2016 - This is a bonus Blog!  Just a little something to throw out there because it crossed my mind.  If you are waiting on “Two Rituals, part 2”, don’t worry, its coming shortly.  Much like a dog distracted by a squirrel, or a slave by something shiny, I had to give this a moment’s attention.  Welcome […]
Two rituals, part 2 August 29, 2016 - My slave honors me with the gift of trust.  I give her my gift of Domination.  If you announced this to your stuffy relatives, or co-workers, they would seem strange words indeed.  To most people, the idea that my Domination would be a gift is a concept so foreign, it can be fairly repulsive.  For […]
Two rituals, part 3 August 31, 2016 - If you read my earlier blog on ULCA research, you can probably skip this.  The second ritual, the one my slave ends each day with, is to send me three things she is grateful for.  I can’t tell you how much it warms my heart, to see the beautiful things she writes.  Tonight she sent […]
Vegas and the missing owls September 1, 2016 - The mystery – Tonight’s chapter of living with X touches on Vegas and the case of missing owls.  Earlier this evening I went to a party in which there was quite literally over a thousand people. Big, loud, free, and a lot of fun. Eight Ball, the other Dominant part of my life. – There […]
The last Bacardi in Las Vegas September 2, 2016 - Well, the bags are packed, and I am relaxing with my last Bacardi in Vegas before the grueling trip home. I’ll catch eight hours sleep then it’s cars, buses, trams, connections, lay overs, I’ll do it all to get back. There is a melancholy to the end of a thing. We often miss a thing, […]
That’s not camping! September 5, 2016 - What does a Master who’s been on the road for a solid week do when he get back to his slave?  He packs up the car for a weekend in the woods with his girl.  Sure it means more travel, plus work to setup and time to take down all the gear, but what the […]
What the Puck, X? September 7, 2016 - Or.. Calling me out on my shit! So in my last blog, That’s not camping!  I mentioned that I offered Izrina’s ass to a couple of drunk nilla’s.    No one called me out on my shit for that one, but if someone had, I would have definitely agreed with you.  Offering your slave to a […]
As gentle as … Strength September 11, 2016 - Nothing is so strong as gentleness and nothing is as gentle as real strength – Penelope Cruz – a character in the TV show Criminal Minds A story of pacifists.  We were watching a science fiction show tonight and in it, humans visited a world inhabited by very simple, very peaceful pacifists with the power […]
Losing at love.. Fear! September 12, 2016 - Each day, my slave honors me with two rituals.  In the morning, it is the ritual of appreciation.  You will find more about that in this blog.   This morning, I didn’t notice the text, asking for my gift of domination.  So I called while on the way to work.  “I think you owe me a […]
Doms don’t cry – part 2 September 22, 2016 - Some time ago, I wrote a piece called “Dom’s don’t cry”.  You can go back and read it or I’ll just summarize here.  Essentially, my point was because our gift is Domination, we can’t give it to someone that doesn’t want what we have to offer.  A slave must crave what we offer.  The begging […]
He’d better! September 25, 2016 - Bad vibes ahead! – I was approaching a gaggle of nilla women and I wanted to cross the street.  I just knew the vibes were bad and the closer I got the more I knew I didn’t want to linger near these people.  As I walked by, I heard “He’d better appreciate it because I […]
Ordinary, everyday, slavery October 6, 2016 - I just haven’t had the fire to write this past week.  Not that there were not those wonderful little moments when Izrina passes me by in something short, just a hint of butt cheek showing, and I can’t resist the sound of a hand striking that ass.. lovely little moments those. And its not that […]
The phoenix has risen! October 8, 2016 - I don’t compromise with my slave, I compromise with reality. ~ Quote – Raven Kaldera, speaking about being flexible as a Master.  In his own way, he was speaking about what I call equity of exchange, what I point to when I speak of our uncommon currency. He was speaking of the need for both […]
Ds “quickies” October 9, 2016 - You know what a “quickie” is, right?  Its when you slip into the shower and “get some” before showing up five minutes late for work.  Or maybe you are at a dinner party and “share” the bathroom before checking that your clothes and hair are properly back in place.  Sure we all like to start […]
Core Values and Beliefs October 9, 2016 - ZEALOTRY!  –  This life I lead has religious overtones.  Use my blog widget to search my blog for the word zealot.  I am one for BDSM.  The word seems to keep coming up.  So excuse me if this bores you, but I have been thinking lately about what defines me, what my core values and […]
Doms don’t cry, part 3 October 11, 2016 - Just when you thought the “Dom’s don’t cry” series was done, ta da!  Yes, rising from the dead like some Halloween fright, is yet another chapter in this series. In “Doms don’t cry, part 1”, I spoke to the fact that if you are not compatible in a Ds kind of way, a Dom just […]
Slaves don’t screw up, part 1 October 12, 2016 - In keeping with this whole “Dom’s don’t cry” theme I think its about time we flipped over the cards and showed the other side.  Normally, I don’t allow anything but the good side of my Ds relation to be revealed in this blog.  And there is plenty of good stuff to talk about. Work today […]
Protocols that slip into obscurity October 16, 2016 - Tonight Izrina started to nod off in my arms, that lazy droopy eyed state she gets, where she talks in slurred speech as if drunk with sleep.. she’s so cute..  then, I asked for her gratitude ritual. I mentioned earlier in the blog “Slaves don’t screw up, part 1”, that sometimes this ritual doesn’t happen […]