Hope is on its way

Back in January, I started preparing for the worse and hoping for the best.

Two weeks ago I saw the need to “flatten the curve”, so I wrote about doing what you can to social distance.

Stories of craziness came in and I wrote about staying calm. We need to be focused but civil.

Then we had the last supper… A last chance for us to get together for a sense of normalcy before we hunkered down and got very serious about social distancing.

Then I wrote about my frustration about just waiting… and waiting.. and waiting.. All my planning was done.. nothing left to do…

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A dear friend and brother in leather wrote this:

As a bit of a control freak, this feeling of having no control over a situation takes me out of my wheelhouse. Even though so much was a false sense of control, I hate not even having that anymore. And as a planner it is difficult with rules and news changing multiple times a day.

I get it. In fact I wrote about the same sentiments a few days earlier. Another good friend and brother in leather who is in law enforcement wrote about his concerns of rising violence. I get that too..

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We are in uncharted waters

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There is plenty of reason to be concerned, fearful, panicky… but as your mind goes so too do your actions. Now is the time for the power of positive thinking. While you are busy learning to deal with social distancing, stay positive… there is much to be hopeful for…

Labs in countries all over the world are working hard… Vaccines are in human trials…. The world might finally have a drug that helps instead of just putting people in beds and watching them… In the US… Bayer donated 3 million doses…. FDA will fast track the testing… drive through testing is picking up speed.. Extra hospital beds plans are mobilizing… Most people are starting to understand the need to social distance… We have lots of reason for hope!

If you find yourself overwhelmed, take a walk.. hug a tree… stand on a mountain… go to a park.. walk in the woods… Nature is healing… The hustle and bustle of the electronic era never was good for your blood pressure.. It’s good to step back, take a deep breath and slow down once in a while..

Some people knew this instinctively. For those of you forced to do it now.. take it as a experience from which you can diversify your thinking and grow. We have much to do to make this a great planet to live on. This might be the tough love we needed to come together and do the right things.

Carpe Diem my friends.. Be someone’s great day.. at a distance of course!

CoronaVirus, Covid-19, advice

Keep calm and do your part to contain!

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Deep breaths people. Most everyone will get infected. You can’t change that but you can control some things.

The key now is to delay Covid-19 as long as possible which has a very positive impact on society. 1) It keeps the max number of active case low allowing resources to better deal 2) It gives the health community more time to develop drugs, vaccines, and strategies… and learn..

Most people don’t educate themselves even when they should. Health workers will make mistakes.. and learn from them.. gonna happen. Take deep breaths… take a nice walk… try to relax and control what you can control.. Concentrate on containment.

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Keep calm and do your part to contain!

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We need a feeling of normalcy.  Seriously…  Nature has a very calming effect and even more so now.   It is public spaces that are most dangerous.  So find a park, hug a tree, take a walk, find a mountain top.. then take a deep breath.  If you are too busy.. walk outside and look up at the sky… or out a window.  You need to disconnect from the hustle and bustle of modern life and get a calm, balanced perspective.  How does that help you ask?  Here is how.

Right now you have to do two things…

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Keep calm and do your part to contain!

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Right now you have to be very serious and dedicated about doing your part to protect society by helping to contain the virus.  You also need to do what you can do and let go of the “call to panic” and suppress it.

You have to find a balance between very serious and unconcerned.  To do that, you need to be calm, collected, and focused.   Nature (by which I mean uncrowded spaces with trees, water and sky) can do this.

So what does it mean to contain?  Containment is very important.  If  there is no containment, in a very short time there will be many, many infections.. too many.. and it will overwhelm the health industry.

If there is containment it won’t change the fact that everyone will eventually be exposed.. but it will mean that it will take longer and the number of active cases that health workers must deal with will be much lower.. allowing resources to be managed.   That improves everyone’s chance of survival.  That is why it is important for you to…

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Keep calm and do your part to contain!

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There are lots of facts and opinions out there adding to the confusion and adding to panic.   Educate yourself by all means but send a clear message that people can see, remember, and follow.  Send the message..  Keep calm and do your part to contain!

There will be reckless assholes…. there always will be.  Unfortunately there are people who think that that education is stupid and elitist …  but them’s smarter than that (sigh).  I know this is true.. There was a son of a old girl friend making fun of all the “assholes” who wanted to work hard at their education years back and nothing I said could convince him otherwise. He had street smarts and common sense and that was all he needed.

There are those who think that college and self education is some kind of elitist attitude. Its a part of our culture I’d love to give correction to… problem is.. the most important part of giving is the taking..

By all means.. educate yourself on how best to be prepared to do your part to contain.  Even if some people won’t, enjoy some nature, get your focus, then …

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Keep calm and do your part to contain!

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Health workers will make mistakes.. and learn from them.. gonna happen.  Government agencies have made mistakes, and will… it was bound to happen.  Production will take a while to adjust.. its gonna happen.  We will all eventually be exposed.. but later rather than sooner is better for everyone.  Take deep breaths… take a nice walk… try to relax and control what you can control.. Get out of public spaces when you can and use that time to relax when you can’t.  Be a good citizen.  Concentrate on containment. Now is the time to come together.

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Keep calm and do your part to contain!

Outside its another bright shiny day filled with promise and challenges you have not yet overcome.   Carpe Diem my friends.  Be someone’s great day!

You could be “outted” soon… by Corona

We are all following the Corona Virus and have all drawn our own conclusions on how contagious or deadly it may be and what we’ll do about it, but consider this.

You go to a local dungeon or home and there are a bunch of people there that you only know as MasterThis or slaveThat.   In the BDSM community, we often don’t tell anyone what our real name is…

Now image someone at that event contracts the CoronaVirus.. aka Covid-19.  What is your country’s or local government’s reaction?  To trace back where you’ve been and who you came in contact with of course.  Who have you come in contact with?  You don’t know.  You only know it was a bunch of people called MasterThis or slaveThat.  Image the public reaction. 

I can see the headlines now…

“Local sex club spreads virus – infection potential unknown”.    Local official were shocked to learn that there was an illegal sex club operating right under their noses.  Health official investigating a person who  recently contracted the CoronaVirus discovered that the patient was unable to provide information about who or how many people that they came in close personal contact with, because persons in this sex club all use alias names.

 

If you think the nillas get excited during normal times just wait until Corona spreads at an event.  They will start demanding org records and researching names in Fet.  Much of this will be new and shocking when they discover just how many of us there are.  It might just be a real eye opener for some people living in their own little vanilla world.

Yes, health records are suppose to be private, but the impact a club or org has on the safety of the community is definitely in the realm of public news.  Don’t think news orgs whose existence is for profit…  aren’t draw like flies to a juicy headline.. Sex sells…  period!

We of the BDSM community operate with dual lives for a very good reason.  The world is not ready to accept S&M..  laws that are designed to protect victims of domestic abuse have a crushing effect on our right to consent.  DSM 5 may have forced the medical community to accept that BDSM is not a sickness but the general public still sees it as sick, twisted or a mental illness.  Dominance and submission often riles up the politically correct who worship at the all might alter of equality.  I know members of my own family think S&M people are mentally ill… that only a sick person would submit to living with someone that is domineering.

The nilla reaction to our presence is absolutely not a good under normal circumstances.  It will be much worse if it thinks that people that are sick in the head are endangering them and their loved ones.

Ahhhh… .. but what if someone gets corona but not at your local org?  Doesn’t matter.  Health officials will still want to know where you’ve been and with who… which will lead to mentioning all your BDSM friend hangouts…

I’m not one to love conspiracy theories, but it also occurs to me that the Corona virus scare is an oppressive government’s dream situation for finding out connections and gathering information.

Ah well.. worry about what you can change, and let go of what you cannot.  In line with that thinking..  start thinking now about how you might respond… not if but when… asked for your recent contacts.  Ideally you will already be prepared to respond with comments like.. I was at a party at a friends house.. not that I was at a sex club!   Carpe Diem my friends, be someone’s great day!