I have a young friend who identifies as Queer. I am never quite clear on exactly what that means and even when I google it the information is somewhat conflicting. I do know the word has a history of being used in a hurtful way. To to be perfectly clear, I personally don’t give a rats ass if someone identifies as Queer.
Our October HOX was freaking awesome. Two new people showed up. We were scheduled to have four new people but for whatever reason two of the new folks didn’t show. I am always amazed at how this works.. people make a reservation and then don’t show. Not a problem when the count is low but when people are not allowed to come because of it, that’s a problem. But enough bitching…
We had a young person show up this month. So young in fact I had to check her ID to make sure. She identified as Queer. She just turned 18 and was very excited to meet others into BDSM and get started. I warned her about slave/Dom frenzy and she seems pretty level headed. I hope we seen more of her.
She’s not quite sure where she is in the power spectrum.. she thinks switch but I am fairly certain that switch would be a compromise simply to take on a partner. Ultimately I think she’s looking to be a Master with a slave. Just my personal assessment, we’ll see.
She had never seen a violet wand before and had some fun with that. Also we did some training in flogging, and caning and I think she came away with a much better idea of the control and precision she’ll need to develop to be good at sadism. Her bottom got some lovely marks and both took “trophy photos” to remember the session.
We also had an older gentleman who chose a “white bracelet”. That means he’s just an observer. No one can interact with him unless he initiates a conversation. He was quiet at first, but I think he warmed up to the group after a bit.
I can’t express how happy it makes me to see people begin to explore a passion. Especially one they may have suppressed or desired to follow for a long time.
Carpe Diem my friends, be someone’s great day!