Queer HOX

I have a young friend who identifies as Queer. I am never quite clear on exactly what that means and even when I google it the information is somewhat conflicting. I do know the word has a history of being used in a hurtful way. To to be perfectly clear, I personally don’t give a rats ass if someone identifies as Queer.

Our October HOX was freaking awesome. Two new people showed up. We were scheduled to have four new people but for whatever reason two of the new folks didn’t show. I am always amazed at how this works.. people make a reservation and then don’t show. Not a problem when the count is low but when people are not allowed to come because of it, that’s a problem. But enough bitching…

We had a young person show up this month. So young in fact I had to check her ID to make sure. She identified as Queer. She just turned 18 and was very excited to meet others into BDSM and get started. I warned her about slave/Dom frenzy and she seems pretty level headed. I hope we seen more of her.

She’s not quite sure where she is in the power spectrum.. she thinks switch but I am fairly certain that switch would be a compromise simply to take on a partner. Ultimately I think she’s looking to be a Master with a slave. Just my personal assessment, we’ll see.

She had never seen a violet wand before and had some fun with that. Also we did some training in flogging, and caning and I think she came away with a much better idea of the control and precision she’ll need to develop to be good at sadism. Her bottom got some lovely marks and both took “trophy photos” to remember the session.

We also had an older gentleman who chose a “white bracelet”. That means he’s just an observer. No one can interact with him unless he initiates a conversation. He was quiet at first, but I think he warmed up to the group after a bit.

I can’t express how happy it makes me to see people begin to explore a passion. Especially one they may have suppressed or desired to follow for a long time.

Carpe Diem my friends, be someone’s great day!

October Wrap Up

It’s October in Pennsylvania and the nights are getting colder. With the help of my slave, I am trying to finish the last of the new steps in back ( in our Ceremony area where we celebrate each year).. That way in the spring we can just level the ground and put in concrete benches for guests… but…

There are other projects that MUST be done before the first freeze hits. So I had to put a hold on the last two steps while I made a push to wrap up some other projects.

All this fast paced effort is really stressing the budget but from my perspective the winter is not the time to be spending money on projects. Maybe this winter I’ll actually get some time in to relax and enjoy the fruits of our many labors.. maybe.. but probably not.

There is a MASSIVE project that can be done inside.. preparations for a tower that I want to build off the side of HOX. The goal is to eventually open up the floor space to a cathedral ceiling with beams and such and that is going to require moving a staircase, hence the massive indoor project.

I’ll have all winter so if I pace myself maybe I can do a few hours work each evening, followed by a few hours of down time.. which will be a huge change from how this summer has gone. This was a very long year of very long days, with lots of back breaking work. Funny how much effort went into things folks barely notice. It will be all be worth it though as it continues to come together.

It is with great pleasure that my slave and I move forward, building a place that is home, as well as a comfortable retreat for community members we call friends. Onward! Carpe Diem, be someone’s great day!