More reflecting

I generally do not engage in debate on Fetlife.  I find it counter-productive to try to change a mind that is already made up.. Nor am I likely to change my mind.  I do believe in being prepared to change my mind if a fact I have not previously considered comes up, but usually I try to consider all angles before I open my mouth.

Don’t allow appearing to have been wrong, to get in the way of actually being right. ~ Xtac Quote

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The above link leads to the below comment.  I saw a friend comment on this page and really wanted to weigh in on the whole rioting, burning looting thing.

I believe in aggressive, non-violent, confrontation. That is NOT the same as being a pacifist.

In the long game I think you do more for your cause with this strategy that being a pacifist or turning to violence.

The only exception to this value is when a belief system systematically sets out to exterminate or enslave another group.

On a side note: I find it hard to believe the local citizens want what is happening to their community. Makes me wonder if the violence wasn’t brought in rather than spontaneous. I’m sure protests were spontaneous. Maybe the police station too. But burning and looting fellow citizens? Doesnt sound like something you do to your own.

Who goes to their local butcher, Baker, corner store and burns them down out of anger and frustration at someone else?. Dont you turn that anger on your oppressor if you are going to use violence at all?

Who sees someone they dont like, then punches the person next to them – a total innocent?

Aggressive, organized, confrontational, non-violence freed an entire country. It can work here.

I later thought about how this applies to BDSM

In BDSM I have often said that a DOM who acts in anger is no DOM at all. When a Dominant finds themselves ready to act in anger that is exactly the time to walk away, develop a cooler head, and then plan a strategy that works to the long term advantage of all parties involved. A Dominant MUST develop this skill to be a true Dominant A submissive who finds themselves in service to a Dominant who can’t control their anger should get out of that relationship immediately. Anger and frustration are great motivators but lousy strategist. If you want to defeat an opponent.. make them angry. A person who is angry is off-balance and more easily defeated.

I don’t really want to debate this whole thing.  Many people have their opinions and I have mine and two of my core-value beliefs will shape what I think.. 1) When you get angry you loose any advantage and slip into making mistakes and poor choices.  2) Aggressive, cool headed, non-violent, confrontation is the way to get things done.

When my slave pisses me off, and my control goes up, and I speak in firm soft tones is exactly the time she should really start to be concerned.

Carpe Diem my friends.  Be someone’s great day!  Stay safe.  And if you are going to burn and loot do it at a safe distance while wearing a mask!

 

2 thoughts on “More reflecting

  1. I believe there are paid forces who infiltrated the cause.
    I have been looking for video but on the BBC news channel it showed a few wearing radios on their ear.
    I could be very wrong about the radios but not the forces who are being paid.

    I do not believe the people in their local community wanted to burn down buildings

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  2. @thekinkyworldofvile There are a lot of video and footage showing pallets of bricks left for the rioters. So yes… there is proof of some org behind the violence.

    It’s sad.. Outside agitators destroying homes and businesses and then leaving the poor locals to find the money to rebuild. As if everyone is not already up to their eyeballs in debt after the last few months.

    It stuns me that the news chooses to cover the clearing of the protestors outside the White House instead of the dead and/or burned bodies found in multiple cities..

    I worked in the news industry years ago. Our editor would have been all over these stories.. He would have wanted to lean in support of the rioters, but he would have felt it was his duty to understand the whole story.. not just the parts he liked. He would have wanted to investigate the bricks thing -report on the deaths. News has changed a lot since I was in the industry.

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