I don’t know if this is common or not. It’s not a subject that comes up a lot. When my slave experiences an orgasm, I consider it a gift to me.
Sex is, at least for me, a somewhat primal thing. Its a “taking thing”. It is hard for me to see impaling my slave on my throbbing need as anything less than a domination. It is a taking thing wrapped up in power and possession.
Beneath me, her sounds of pleasure are my reassurance. Her orgasm an affirmation of consent. It is a gift of submission, wrapped in the pleasures of flesh, handed to her owner upon the alter of our peculiar love.
Force fantasy, if you know what that is, in reality is just play. It is fun to play at rough sex but at the end of the day without consent it turns ugly. Consent is the foundation of bdsm. It is important to note that neither pleasure nor orgasm are in and of itself consent. It can be though…
We bring consent to our play in many ways.. through negotiation, through affirmation, through submission, and other ways.
When a slave in the throws of passion whispers “I am your slave”.. when that slave begs for permission to orgasm.. when that slave offers that orgasm as a sign of their submission and love for the Master they serve.. it is pleasing.. at least to this Master.
I love the gifts of orgasm my slave brings to me. They please me. Not just because they stroke my ego. Yes, there is that too in this. But it is more than that. In the taking is domination. In the giving is consensual submission. How you do this.. through ritual, protocol, rules, and such can magnify the sense of this.
You need to be more than inside the body of your slave. You need to be in their mind as well. Demands and control and protocol drive it all deeper and in sex deeper still. I am all about control, but I can’t separate sex from power. They are too closely tied.
Not sure if this makes sense, but then it doesn’t have to for anyone else. It just has to for this Master and his slave. Carpe Diem my friends, be someone’s great day!