Leaders inspire people to follow them. Leaders have followers. That’s it, nothing more. A leader doesn’t need a title or the gravity of authority to get people to follow them. They can be high on the chain of command or low. Often a leader IS someone lower in rank, a person working for someone in charge, but because that person is a leader, people follow, they do, for the leader. It happens in the military and business, its a thing that at first blush may seem hard to pin down, but its really not as complicated as you might think.
There are only two ways to motivate people.. manipulation and inspiration. If you want to be a leader, speak last, listen, compliment people, give credit for contribution and great ideas. Hording all the credit for yourself doesn’t inspire people, but being selfless as you bring together all of the talents in a room. THAT inspires people. They feel like they contributed to something that had meaning, that they achieved something on a personal level, because of the way the leader made them feel about their contribution. We all want to feel like we accomplished something. How many days did you work all day and feel like you accomplished nothing? That sucks, right?
I am inspired. Work has been satisfying.. because I lead, and because MY leaders recognized that, they left me with the feeling that my leadership, had value. Even leaders need to feel inspired. We all prefer inspiration over manipulation. Life has been crazy busy but satisfying.. Its not how hard you work, its how satisfied you are afterward.
We are supposed to get between six and ten inches of snow over the next twenty four hours.. Damn… that’s a lot of snow. I am not looking forward to shoveling that. Izrina slept at the ranch again because of it. I hate when that happens. Time to put on a happy face and make the best of it. I feel like an actor.. What’s my motivation?
And what does this have to do with BDSM? Everything. A slave is like the worker who needs a leader..so the Dominant must inspire.. they must craft their language and project a sense that what the slave does has meaning.. And the slave needs to do that same.. a slave needs to craft their language and project a sense that what the Dominant does has meaning. Izrina often says.. A pleasure to serve. I made myself some crackers and cream cheese tonight as Izrina soaked in the tub after a long day at work.. I thought about it for a moment, then brought her a small plate. Hers had strawberry.. mine had jalapeno. She smiled..I couldn’t use her line.. it just didn’t fit. What was it I said? Ah Yes, it was: A pleasure to bring happiness, to the one who serves. Hey! I’m a Master.. I can do whatever the hell I want to do!