An external slave, one who is enslaved by external forces, has no choices. An internal slave, one who is enslaved by their own desires to engage in submission and consensual slavery, has a world of choices.. until one day.
One day that slave, having been responsible for years, and having honed his or her skills in decision making, and having protected the property that is their body, keeping it safe for the Owner who would one day take possession, finally finds and requests the gift of domination, and is scared and excited to find that Dominant has chosen to bestow that gift upon them.
On that day, when a slave enters into consideration, then training, to be a slave for the Dominant of their desire, on that day their areas of choice narrows significantly.
Some might argue, a slave makes one decision, the owner they would serve. I find that to be a simple and uncompelling concept and patently wrong… a slave does not choose the owner, that violates the very core of control. I present to you a richer, more full look at the areas of choice a consensual slave has.. regardless of how their owner prefers to structure their TPE.
Who, What, When
Area 1) Who gives commands – The consensual slave retains the choice of the individuals to whom they give their ultimate gift, the gift of trust. Once a choice is made, the consensual slave will make known their desire to submit, requesting the gift of Domination, mentoring, or protection. This choice may be negotiated away.
An un-owned a slave can and must judge the Dominants they would offer their trust to. Be it for a scene, or a protector, a mentor, or a possible owner, the consensual slave must exercise their first responsibility as a slave, drawing upon all the wisdom they have so far accumulated, in the selection of who to trust. An owned slave may relinquish their responsibility to choose wisely who they will trust, giving that responsibility to the one they serve – all the more reason to choose wisely. An owned slave may retain this area of choice completely, if it is negotiated as part of the TPE agreement. If a slave gives this area of choice into the control of their Dominant, the slave no longer retains the right to chose who to trust, though they may still have a voice in the process. This is the first area of choice that any consensual slave starts with. It may be negotiated away.
Area 2) What commands are accepted – The owned consensual slave will faithfully execute all commands of the dominant they serve but will choose wisely the manner in which they resist commands that violate their responsibilities to the property, its values, and its ethics. This choice may not be negotiated away.
A slave will ALWAYS be responsible for the commands they accept. You must weigh commands against your values and ethics and those that don’t measure up must not be accepted. You should not accept harm to the property that is your body.. Pain maybe, but no lasting significant harm. Lastly, you may retain those areas that are agreed to under the four areas of TPE negation.
The responsible Dominant will understand a slaves values and ethics are a higher priority and might even test that a slave is still acting as the final arbitrator of right choice, and right action, as defined by the slaves personal values and ethics. A good Dominant needs to know that the core values are intact.
Many a slave has committed acts they later regretted because they failed to exercise this area of choice. This area of choice MUST be retained. This is the second area of choice for any consensual slave. It may not be negotiated away.
Area 3) When to withdraw consent – A consensual slave may choose to exercise the power of withdrawing consent, knowing that any time the power of consent is exercised, may be the last time they do so as an slave of that owner. This choice is fundamental to BDSM and is impossible to remove under the concepts of consensual internalized enslavement.
Any consensual slave ethically and legally retains the right at any time to withdraw consent. Consensual slavery is founded on the concept in internalized enslavement. To not acknowledge this is to shift into external enslavement – enslavement enforced not by desire, but by fear and intimidation – and it is evil.
The consensual slave can not control what commands they will be given or when. They have submitted their body and mind into the will of another and given the ultimate gift of a slave, complete trust that this submission will be used honorably, in accordance with the four areas of TPE negotiation, and within the slaves core beliefs, values and ethics.
If an owner violates that trust, repeatedly and without repentance, it is encumbrance upon the consensual slave to exercise good decision making and withdraw consent. The owner may in return choose to remove his or her collar. These are decisions not to be taken lightly, but the right to withdraw consent is always present, always an option. Both slave and Owner would do well to remember this. This the third area of choice for any consensual slave. It exists always, in every minute of submission, even if that submission lasts a lifetime.
Being the arrogant pompous ass that I am, I like to think that this is a much better approach than the simple.. you are a slave.. you do everything I say thing. Call it my version of best practices if you like. Reality dictates that is this is just my opinion, but being a Dominant, I naturally think that I am brilliant and therefore this must be spot on. I am pleased with this final draft.
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- The THREE slave responsibilities
- The THREE areas of slave choice
- The FOUR areas of TPE negotiation
- I am ignoring you slave!
- Why THREE collars are important
- Why Protocols are part of training ( pending )