A Merry Kinky Christmass my friends… because everything is better when it ends with some “ass”. Especially a red ass.
During the Holidays, I like to sit and watch those schmaltzy Christmas movies. It puts me in a frame of mind that believes there is hope for the whole world.
We are supposed to be full of Christmas cheer now, right? I want to share words of inspiration, but then I think.. Its a Christian Holiday. What do Jews or Muslims think of this whole “Christ-Mass” thing? And I think of the terror attacks that will be planned around mass gatherings. And I think of the snarls of traffic with frantic people rushing to get a gift that may be returned, or thrown out.. and I wonder.. is Christmas really so different from any other day? Perhaps it shouldn’t be. In 2014, I wrote this on Thanksgiving:
I am thankful for beautiful skies, my inner guide, and the universe through which I offer myself as a conduit. I am thankful for my canvas, she with whom I practice serving those who serve. I am thankful for that which gives meaning to my life. I am thankful for those who have shared moments with me, letting me be part of their life, as I am part of theirs. ~ Xtac Quote, Thanksgiving 2014
So today is Christmas. Some will spend it alone. Some will tear open gifts and sit in piles of wrapping paper. Some will be thankful its over. Some will get in cars and make trips to family members they may or may not want to see. Me, I will spend it with people that are important to me, and I will do nothing special, which will make it extra special. My daughter and my mother will get together and bake a new cake recipe. And my daughter will make memories that will make her cry when Grandma has passed on. Life always ends.
We often go about our Christmas “to do” list like good soldiers following orders. We often do these things with eyes closed, not sure why we do them. Let me tell you why. Yes, Christmas is commercial, and Yes, Christmas is in large part about gifts. It IS a time of gift giving. So let’s think more about giving, shall we? When you give, you can give of your money, or time, or talent. Of the three, time is the most precious gift.
Sometimes we give because we can’t wait to see the smiles our gift will bring. And sometimes we give for the joy we hope it will bring. Sometimes we give for the warm, smug feeling that tells us what good people we are for giving.
There was a homeless gentleman I passed every day on the way to work, and I would pick up a carrot cake, or some other packaged food, so he could tell I had not messed with it, and hand it to him as I passed. Some days, I included a few dollars. I could easily have fallen into the trap of feeling smug about this. Giving, if we do it for the wrong reasons, can be a bad thing.
If we look at what we have, and what others have, and what stuff we want to move from our pile to another’s, we are looking at gifts as a cold truth with a closed heart. When you give, what you gave is no longer yours. It belongs to someone else now. You should have no expectations of control over the thing that is no longer yours. The truth is, most of us expect something in return for a gift. We hope the gift brings joy, or finds a place in their home. We hope for an equitable exchange, warm feelings in return for our generosity. Often, we have expectations of an immediate return on our gift, even if we don’t consciously express it or think about it.
Ask yourself, why WOULD you give if your gift was just thrown away? Why would you give if no appreciation was expressed? Ah, now we get to the heart of Christmas!
Christmas and giving are NOT about the joy you create, or what happens with your gifts. When you give, you have become a conduit for the light of the universe. What you give, you receive back three fold. Not from the person that you gave to, but from the boundless love that you have made yourself a conduit for.
When you are selfless, as any slave knows, you have tapped into something bigger than you or the person you have served. You are a mystic, a shaman, a priest of the universe. Not in some intangible way, but in a way that fills you with light and lightness. Your heart is free, you are warmed with an irresistible urge to smile, you like scrooge are happy beyond measure and you can’t explain it. But you know it is real because you feel it.
You can’t bottle it, you can’t sell it, and you can’t give it to someone else. When you experience being a conduit for love, this is your personal gift from somewhere beyond. You can’t make people believe in it. Nor can you make people experience it, even if they give. A person who refuses to open their heart can give, and then sit unhappy that giving was a miserable experience. No, you must open your heart to the experience, to feel love pouring through you.
So as you go to visit, as you sit with friends, as you watch gifts unwrapped, open your heart to a bigger picture. This IS a time when the hope of the whole world rests in our hands. It is a time when we can peel back the veil and see the what happens when we think beyond our own little lives. We can FEEL the reality that can’t be shared. We can feel the experience that is open to any who allow it. It is a time when we can help others to see that there is more to life than collecting a pile of stuff.
We have only so much time in this life. Every second is a gift. We can not create for ourselves, one more second of time than we will have. We own nothing. Not even our bodies. These too shall return to the earth. We own only one thing, my friends. Our decisions. This Christmas, I encourage you to look at your decisions and make good ones, especially with your time. Spend it with people who matter. Give and hold nothing back. Let yourself be free of your worries. Be a conduit for all the good this world deserves, and if you should find yourself weeping, it will probably be for joy. Joy for the smallest moments that are so huge. Carpe Diem! Merry Christmas! Go be someone’s great day!