My slave and I are gaming geeks. We both love Skyrim, and Minecraft. If you haven’t heard of Minecraft, you can’t be reading this now, because the rock you are living under has no electricity. Skyrim, if you are not familiar, is an incredible immersive fantasy game, rich with breathtaking scenery and endless hills and valleys to explore. You can wander for days across this fantasy land as you build up the skills and possessions of a character who can be a hero, or villain, depending on how you feel like playing.
Now, you may be wondering, “Yes X, but what does that have to do with my throbbing sexual needs? What about my deep lust for Dominance and submission? When do we get to the good stuff? ” Glad you asked.
Seventeen days ago, my slave and I underwent a little “adjustment” in her duties to correct an area I was not pleased with. I have to say that since “Domination on Blogs, the quirks”, the changes I’ve made have kept me quite happy.
It’s not fair to you, my steady followers to not explain. What I was unhappy with, was the lack of detail in housekeeping. I like a home to be neat, tidy, and presentable enough for company at any time. Its the small things: dust that builds up, chrome that is splattered, baseboards that haven’t been cleaned, things that are not organized. The little things add up, and the collective is messy. A home should be a place of comfort, a refuge from the storms outside, a retreat where you love your environment, and the person or persons you share it with. I can’t be comfortable if the place isn’t spot on. I’ve lived with disasters. I don’t want that ever again.
I took responsibility for this. If things didn’t get done, its because I wasn’t managing properly. Izrina is first and foremost a slave. I just needed to set expectations. I expect anticipatory service, and I expect what pleases me would be done by a slave who loves to please, but no one is a mind reader.
There is a lazy side to managing that sometimes does not want to deal with things. To be a good Master, or manager for that matter, you cannot let things slide. I was unhappy, and things needed to change. When things do not get done, a strong willed person steps in and makes changes.
I need to say these things to reveal to you, what it is like in an ongoing, every day Master – slave relation. Even when its perfect, you still have ups and downs. Of course when things are perfect, a “down” side is more like disappointment than a total unhappy meltdown – especially if you don’t let things slide.
So I instituted a schedule. Cleaning will happen every day, five days a week. It will start each Monday, at the desk in the living room. Five areas, one for each weekday, arranged in a logical, clockwise order around the home.
After week one, no dust, and everything was neat and shiny. By week two, cleanup was a matter of finding something to clean. By week three, cleaning turned to just a little tidying up, and organizing. The home is now something I am very proud of, and more importantly, when I come home I look around; I am at ease. It pleases me, and my pleasure, pleases her. I don’t feel the need to get back up and have this or that handled. Everything is on a schedule, and looks great.
At first, cleaning every day takes time away and at the end of a long day at work, you don’t want to give up that time. Later, when there is little left to do, those few minutes of maintenance are easy. She has a new appreciation, I think, for our home, and what she does in service to me. We still have our down time, and that brings me back to our gaming geek side.
Oh, we are geeks.. believe me. She has a book with over a thousand pages, on Skyrim. She studies and take notes for when I give her some play time. When she started a new diet recently, she poured over books, wrote shopping lists, collected recipes, and all of it was recorded in a notepad, in handwriting that is neat, and oh so tiny.. OCD, yeah, we got that.
Now that my daughter is away at College, finances are very tight and we are spending even more time at home. That means more time to clean, and experiment with food, and play games. Now of the electronic games, I will often have a bath drawn, and have a drink brought to me, then release her to play Skyrim. I’ll do some Sudoku, to keep my mind limber, and then kick her off the game to go make supper, at which point its my turn to de-stress by killing monsters and exploring.
As a Dominant, I can play all I want and leave her to find something else with which to amuse herself. I can be greedy, and hog all the play time for myself. But gaming can be a terrible addiction. You get to a point where you have things you want to achieve in the game and you can go hours before you notice the amount of time that has gone by.. unless you are the person waiting for your turn.. then time goes very, very slowly. I know this. I have that addiction too, and when I am hogging all the game time, I think about these things.
As I was sipping my drink tonight and preparing to kick her off the game, a thought occurred to me. I wonder how many Master and slave relations have had fights because the Dominant was greedy and monopolized the entertainment? I know it seems like a silly thing, but when you get home, and the cleaning and chores are all done, we all need something to entertain us, something to fill the hours with.
Often Master and slave entertainment is TV, in the form of sports, or a movie. But it might also be surfing the net, writing, painting, reading, or gaming. Some of those things you may have to wait your turn for. I wonder.. how do other Dominants and slaves reach a compromise on TV, or games, or the computer? Or do they compromise at all? Are some slaves secretly very unhappy because of the greedy hogging by the Master? Should a Master give up time, say on a computer, if there is just one, and they are not ready to give it up? Should a slave have to wait until Master leaves, to watch the movies and entertainment they like?
Its super hot, to say I am going to use you as my sexual toy. I am going to fuck you any time I want and you will experience being a thing for my sexual amusement. I will use your mouth, and your gentiles any time it pleases me. You will not protest when I choose to undress you, and caress the parts of your body I desire, to finger and fondle because I can, and because every part of your body is mine. Yeah, that’s hot. I don’t see any downside at all there. But this is an activity where attention is being paid. Its quite different if you are being ignored.
Its not so hot to be sitting beside a person engrossed in a football game, that you care nothing about, and get no attention. It is not so hot to be at the feet of a Master who is playing a video game, and all you want is your turn, so you are fidgeting and waiting, and waiting, and waiting. Sometimes a full time relation is not as glamorous as the picture we paint in our heads. Is it a slaves place to be bored and ignored, if the Master is happy? I guess it depends on the Master and slave. I know slaves who crave objectification, for whom being ignored is fine. Others, not so much. Yeah, it depends.
My solution for us is the “smoking jacket and pipe”. That plus I do at times give up my control of our gaming entertainment. After all, the goal is mutual happiness. Some days, I am happy to give Izrina the controls, take her lap as my pillow and nap, while she gets her “fix” for some of her wild Skyrim addiction. I think the real key is attention. A Master needs to put down the remote periodically to direct, inspect, praise, and maybe enjoy a little Ds quickie. The answer could be as simple as directing your slave to paint or undertake some other project or hobby at your direction-something that becomes pleasure, and extends the control. Control should be felt at all times, when you are living it.
If the picture I have painted here seems less than ideal for your personal preferences, that’s fine. I works for us. As I noted it earlier, “it depends”. I couldn’t be happier and if her happy little sighs as I stroked her this evening is any indication, then she is quite happy too. Life is too short to live for the future. You have to find your happiness right here, right now, in the little things. I couldn’t be more pleased. Pleased with the home, pleased with my slave, pleased with how proud she is when she pleases me, pleased with the comfort and love I feel when we are doing nothing special.. Odd… Just as a slave finds freedom in her chains, I find so many special moments, when nothing special is happening. Carpe Diem my friends.. Go make a great day!