I was re-reading my last post, finding and correcting the spelling mistakes that I always seem to find AFTER I click post, and this hit me:
Its been another great day as a Master and property owner. As she left for work this morning, I said, see you tonight. She said, I wish I had a remote that allowed me to fast forward to then. It made me smile and be warmed.
You may not see anything wrong in that statement but Izrina would catch it right away. If SHE said this, I’d be on her right away. The part of this that would cause this is “It made me smile”. I try to strike that kind of language from my world, and hers.
Nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing should “make me” anything. I will “make me”. I will choose what I attach focus to, and what I dismiss. It is by this action that I create a happier me. It can be an effort, but what I get in return is exactly what you want.. Its what anyone reading this wants.
Oh sure, you may be alone and want a Master, or a slave. You may want to be held, or have better sex. You may want a sexier car or maybe just one that is more dependable. You may want to own your house, or have a second one for rental income or a vacation spot. I could guess forever at what you think you want, but here is the point: You want these things because you want happiness. Really, all you want is happiness. Does it matter where you find it, if you have it?
What I might have said was: I focused on those words, and felt warmed by them. THIS would be more in keeping with what I teach. “Made me” is so very hard to drive out of your language. I’ve been at it for years and it still creeps in from time to time.
We embrace things or not. We give focus to things or not. And when we embrace or focus on a thing, does it “make us” still? To answer that question, I would point out that a Master may give oral service to a slave and still be in control. A slave can give oral service to a Master and still be a consensual slave. Neither was ultimately “made” to give service. Both chose to embrace it.
Through consent the slave chose to be Dominated. The oral service was by extension, a choice. The Master chose to exercise their Dominance in this manner and perhaps was a bit sadistic with the orgasm, to use that control further. Both performed the same service, yet their head was in a completely different place. When we consent, when we give focus to a thing, it no longer “makes us”.
When we say, this made me, or that made me, we are giving up control to every possible good and bad thing in our life. But when we give focus to the good and dismiss the bad, we take control of our happiness, and our lives become more rich and full. Effort is rewarded. You will find it easier to ignore the bad, and enjoy the good over time. No doubt about it, the phoenix has risen. Got to finish up a little house repair, and then its time for a motorcycle ride I think. Life is good!