Doms don’t cry

You slaves out there are in for a rare treat tonight.  I am going to share with you some insights, a view into things an experienced Dominant won’t usually reveal.

A worthy Dominant will do things for their slave, that the slave is never aware of.  We know our sacred role is to protect you and shelter you, and make easy for you the road ahead.  We know that we must remove from you, the burdens of decision making, and leave for you a simple and happy life as an extension of our will.  We seek your happiness believing that you understand our gift, and that we can help you help yourself by leading you to the joy of service, the satisfaction of honest labor, and the knowledge that uncommon currency creates our equitable exchange.

Now towards that end, it is important that we stay strong leaders.  But our slaves often become more than pets, we can come to love you above all else, and see the power that we demonstrate through your dedication as indistinguishable from ourselves.  Often, when we have done our jobs well, we are no longer needed.  The things we see in our slaves lives that could be better, we fix.  We change our slaves, making them more confident, more able and we often do so at our own peril, because this often means our slaves will leave us.

Maybe a slave leaves because other owners see the value we have created and court the slave.  Or maybe there was low self esteem that no longer exists.  Or maybe we were just an exciting experiment.   What ever the reason, when a slave exercises their power of consent and asks to have the Master’s collar removed, it can be more than incredibly painful, it can be destructive to the image we have created of ourselves.  Its good for slaves and owners to remember that their value is not demonstrated by a relation, but instead by what we bring to a relation.

Now the pain works both ways – but when a Master is abandoned,  they cannot beg and crawl and ask the slave to take them back.  Slaves do not take owners.  Owners take slaves.  NO, no, no!  No matter what is going on inside, no matter how our guts are being torn apart we must stay true to our sacred role.  An experienced Dominant knows that if a slave can not see the value of their gift.. to Dominate and control, then that person is not really the slave for us.  We know that a real slave craves Domination, and values this and that we have a gift in this regard.  We MUST not reverse that power dynamic and be the one to beg.

So like the phoenix we burn up inside, dying a silent death while we still struggle to project the fire that we know ourselves to be capable of.  We put on a brave face that deep down we know we no longer feel.. and we feel a bit like a faker for it.  We all come at some point to the pinnacle of doubt where faith in ourselves is tested and if we are strong, just like the phoenix we can be reborn.  This is not unique to owners. Slaves often face this moment of self doubt too, when they question their value.

But an owner has few places to turn to unburden themselves.  “Its lonely at the top” hints at this.  I know the image of being a Dominant and owner sound glorious, but the truth is, if you do this for long enough you will know the pain of which I speak.  I have faced my own resurrection, been through the fire and it no longer touches me.  Not because I have put up walls.  No boundaries should exist between my slave and I.  No, it no longer touches me because I have become the man that can take the burden, what ever it may be, to uphold my sacred role.  I believe what I preach. If my slave does not need my gift, then I will no longer see her as worthy.  This is not a place some owners and slaves you know, may be capable of, yet.

The last thing an owner should would want is pity.  It’s hardly in keeping with the role of a strong, leader.  Just know that sometimes the confidence that an owner projects may hide a pain we can not show.  That no matter how much we may desire a slave’s return, our beliefs prevent us from begging.  That no matter what the personal pain, we will endure to be the Master that some slave can appreciate.  And in time, we will appreciate that we found that strength in  ourselves, to be the kind of owner that is appreciated.